Cabo Vacation Lookbook: Outfits Ideas


Hey everyone and welcome back to The Selfish Column.  I would say happy spring but if you live in Calgary you know there is no spring in sight. But luckily I was able to experience some sun during my Cabo vacation.

Last month I and a group of some amazing women went to Cabo San Lucas to celebrate my girl’s bachelorette and let me tell you, things went a bit wild- – –  But I have to say it’s a girl’s trip dream come true.

What I’m most proud of when it comes to my outfits are how affordable they were. As you all know, The selfish Column is always here to save you a buck or two and that will NEVER change. I hope you enjoyed my first ever lookbook because I enjoyed creating this and can’t wait to see how all of you respond to it.

Now let’s get to business, THE FASHION.  These looks were just a snippet of what I wore on the trip and hopefully, it inspires you on your next vacation.

Mexico Dress
Dress From Forever21 $24.90 CAD
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As a girl that love her blacks and whites and all the natural colors this print definitely allowed me to still be comfortable.
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Top: Forever21 $24.90CAD
Mexico Pants
Did you really go on vacation if you didn’t wear white jeans pants?. These Pants are last summer’s look from H$M Canada.
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Heels are a classic summer look from Call it Spring. I bought these about a year ago and can’t remember the price but rest assured they were on Sale.
Jump Suit 2
This jumpsuit was perfect for the beach, loose and comfy.
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Jumpin’ Jumpin’ Jumpin’   Jumpsuit: Forever21 $24.90CAD            Sandals: Forver21 $17.90CAD
Lemon Pants 2
I took risks this time around, and I feel confident about my decision.  I found that I actually look good in patterns and my skin tone pops when the suns around.
Lemon Pants
Top: Forever21 $22.90        Lemon Jeans: Forever21 $30.90CAD
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The Real Housewives of Atlanta vibes with all the shade!!!!
Mexico All White 3
Purse: Forever21 $15.00CAD (Sale)          Top: Forver21 $20.90CAD
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White Sandals: Forever21 $17.90CAD                       Sunglasses: Forever21 $10.43CAD (Sale)
Bathing Suit 3
Believe it or not, I have a bag of Swim Wear pieces that I take to every vacation I hit up. I haven’t changed them or purchased a new suit in about four years. Maybe this year I should start shopping, LOL. To keep it fresh I mix and match my bottoms with different color tops.
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Bathing Suit Full Piece: HM Canada
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In the sea but never lost at the shore


Most of my items are from Forever 21 Canada; yes I am an adult and I still shop there, and no I am not ashamed of it. (Plus these pieces are freaking cuteeeeeeee.)

As always thank you for stopping by The Selfish Column… until next time selfish readers.




Galentine’s Day With La Marca Prosecco

Hey everyone and welcome back to The Selfish Column. Can you believe it is Valentine’s Day? Who doesn’t love “LOVE”!!! Better yet who doesn’t love sharing the love with everyone around them?. This year, I decided not only to celebrate Valentine’s Day but also share Galentine’s Day with my girls. What’s Galentine’s Day you ask? Well, it’s the day before V-Day; where you and your lovely girls treat each other to a day of fun, laughter, and DRINKS!! This year with the help of La Marca Prosecco I and my lovely ladies took the morning by a storm. We woke up to a lovely pancake breakfast and some good old Mimosa (what more can a girl ask for).

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The day was spend sipping on some yummy bubbles, and taking in the sugar high from the cupcakes. (Remember sugar, spice, and everything Nice- (bet you can’t complete the phrase).

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Who said girls can’t have fun while getting ready. Honestly, this morning was perfect, I haven’t laughed this hard and enjoyed Prosecco like I did. La Marca really came through for the kid. If you know me, you know Prosecco is not usually my go to, but with how tasty, light and smooth it was, it made for such a great start to my morning and afternoon. The great thing about this Prosecco ladies and gents, it can transition greatly throughout any event you have during the day.

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Did I mention this bottle is smooooth, I mean like smoother than a fresh perm!!! Hahhhhah.  Really though the bubbles are persistent which goes perfectly with the crisp finish it adds to your taste palate.

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This is the perfect bottle not only for a day like Galentine’s Day, but any other occasion coming up in your life. The year is still young and there are plenty of events to be celebrated, so why not pick up a bottle of La Marca Prosecco for the occasion.

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As always thank you for stopping by and getting this far into the post. A special thanks to the girls that came to spend this Galantine’s Day with me.  I am forever at aww with the love and dedication I receive every day from all the amazing women in my life. Today was just the tip of my lifelong celebrations with so many of you.

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Three Steps To Mastering Your Goals

Hello everyone and welcome back to The Selfish Column; Hope everyone is having a great new year so far. I spend the first few weeks of the year reorganizing my mind, space, and time, as well as planning a few trips for the upcoming months. I would like to keep the momentum going on the last topic (New Year Recharge); please read it if you haven’t yet. The topic for this week is GOALS, and how to break them down.  I felt like this was the perfect topic to follow my latest post because it’s about getting things done. Before my current life as a blogger and as an adult student, I used to work as a Child and Youth Worker. While working in this field I developed some pretty cool skills on building short and long-term goals.  So you may say that I had a little practice with implementing goals.

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Michael’s Canada

Check out my three simple steps below and let’s get the discussion POPPIN in the comments.

  1. Get a Pen and Paper; Write Your Goals Down: I would suggest starting with your long-term goals. By doing so you give yourself a picture of the overall vision.
  2. Break Down Those Long-Term Goals into Three Short-Term Goals. This is the part where you look at what achievable things you can do in your daily life to work on your goals.
  3. Plan, Implement, and Action:
  • In Planning: Focus on the pros, and what can be done positively but still balances your life.
  • Implementing: Start to put those pros that you found in the planning stage in your everyday routine.
  • Action: Is the part where all your hard work and dedication come into play. You begin to normalize everything you began to implement in your everyday routine. Action should feel like second nature to you.
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I know it’s easier said than done, so I wanted to show you an example from my point of view. Because how else are you guys supposed to take my ishhhh serious if I ain’t about it????

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White Notepad: Michael’s Canada

I recently I took a weekend to myself to get my yearly blog schedule together; but you can apply this system in all aspects of your life, whether its spending time with your family or running a business. I wrote down my long-term goals for the blog for the year ahead on my notepad, I then broke these goals into five categories. By doing so, I can now envision how it can be broken down into small task “aka” short-term goals. Below are the categories I listed for reference:

  • Lifestyle
  • “Adulting”
  • Fashion
  • Skincare/ Makeup
  • Travel

Once I completed this list, I began to break down how I can accomplish it on daily basis. Since there are five things I wanted to focus on, the best way to go about this is to dedicate each day of the week working on one specific topic. Now let’s not think I got the coins to be traveling each week, but I do take the day to plan my future travels, the budget required, and any necessary deposits update- – – – Once I figured out how to managed everything in the breakdown step, my next step is planning the trips, implementing them and last but not least hopefully travelling the EFFFFFF out of here and getting my life!!!

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Copper Pens: Chapters 


I hope you enjoyed reading my three simple steps. If you have any questions, suggestions or just a comment please leave your thoughts below. I would love to hear from you all.  As always thank you for visiting The Selfish Column and making it this far. With love, always.




New Year Recharge With The Selfish Column

Welcome back to The Selfish Column loves. Its a new month new day and new YEAR!!!. It is 2018 Y’ALL 2018. It seems like yesterday that we entered 2017 and were setting our goals for the months ahead of us. I have always said that 2017 was over itself before we ever were. This blog post is all about how to get on the right foot this month so that the rest of your 2018 can be somewhat smooth.

The last month of the year is always the busiest for most people. Christmas holidays and New Years tend to have people on the go that we somehow begin to neglect our own lives.  So how does The Selfish Column get back on track? What are some tips that The Selfish Column can share with you? Well look no further scroll down and check out my latest tips.

  1. Declutter Your Mind and Start Planning:  A clear mind makes for an organized life. I use my day planner to jot down my work schedule, meetings, deadlines, and dinner (or breakfast) dates with friends. Leaving my head clear and free to be creative.
  2. Declutter Your Space: If there is anything that can make me feel claustrophobic is a messy closet. If my clothes are disorganized I legit feel and look like I have given up on life. When cleaning out my closet abide by the rule of thumb “if you haven’t worn it in a year, there is no reason it should make the new year”.
  3. Expand Your Mind / Further Your Knowledge/Exercise That Brain: The first month of the year should always be considered a fresh start. Commit to building on current skills and learning new ones. I learn best by reading.  Picking up a book not only provides a new perspective on a topic you enjoy but enhances your current knowledge. (The book I’m currently reading is by Bob Burg and John David Mann “The Go-Giver” )
  4. Focus on Completing One Task a Day: As adults, it is no surprise that we can get caught up in the hardship of “adulting” each day.  I am not perfect after all, we’re just human and LIFE HAPPENS.  Getting in the habit of aiming to complete one task a day from beginning to end, will be beneficial in the long run. My advice is to write one goal each night before bed and place it on top of your list when you wake up in the morning.
  5. JUST DO IT: There is no other way to say this. And no it’s not a Nike plug-in, but a get-up and go for IT moment. IT can be anything you want, need, desire or love. The only way to start off on a good note is to let go of all the excuses and doubt you had in the past year and just go for it. With no excuses or fear. That book you wanted to write, Just Do It, That Business plan you wanted to draft, Just Do It, That trip you wanted to go on, work toward it and Just Do It. Make 2018 the year to JUST DO IT.


Hope you enjoy reading this post. As always leave your comments, thoughts, and ideas in the comment section. Looking forwarding to hearing from you all.


5 Tips to Manage Your Student Loan Debt

Welcome back to The Selfish Column everyone, hope all is well in your world of adulting. As you can tell by the title today we are talking about that “wonderful” thing called student loan. And by wonderful I mean that life-sucking nightmare that gives false investment into your future (lol where is the lie though… RIGHT).  If you live in North America and have ever set your mind on a post-secondary education, you may have noticed the expensive price tag that comes with this decision. Don’t get me wrong, investing in your future is an incredible thing and so is continuously educating yourself.

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A little About My College/University Journey

During my college years, I was living with my parents while working the weekends and summer days to pay for my classes. Living at home helped minimize my expenses while paying for school.  After graduating my college program,  I went straight to the third year of my university program and took out my first loan.  When it came time to pay it off I struggled with it because not only did I move away from home but I went back to school without informing student loan. Honestly, I did not know how to go about paying this. I fell behind and pretended that my loan didn’t exist, but that didn’t last long. Eventually, I took control of the situation and started slow. I decided to take a look at my interest rate and my income tax returns.  The best course of action for me at the time was to give my tax return back to the government. It wasn’t easy to give this cash up because tax season is always around my birthday and the reality of no more extra birthday cash was saddening ( no more stunting with my returns hahahahahah).  But I had to remind myself constantly that I lived without the income tax return money for a year and managed to survive just fine. After all, being out of debt is far more important in the long run.  So without further or do, please see below my basic tips on managing your student loan.


1. Check when tuition is due for each semester:

This is good if you pay your own classes. This gives you time to save up and pay slowly toward your classes. I did this while in college, I made a point to treat it like a monthly bill and visited the registrar office each month to pay off a large sum.

2. Save a portion of your grants and or bursaries:

With a student loan, you get things such a grants and scholarships, I know it is money you don’t have to pay back but that doesn’t mean you can’t use a portion of it towards your student loan. 

3. Use a portion of your income tax to pay a large amount:

Most students use their income tax return as extra money to go on trips— But if you divide accordingly, you will be able to enjoy more of it in the long run.

4. Always pay on top of your interest rate:

But most importantly always AlWAYS pay on time.

5. Build a relationship with the agent that holds your account:

Call the office and find out who is assigned to your account because having a strong and honest relationship with your agent can work in your favor. Keeping them in the loop of your financial situation can avoid your account being forwarded to collections and receiving those debt collector calls that we all hate.

Thank you for getting to this point and reading the whole post. I hope you found these tips to be helpful in your student career. Some of these tips I learned from personal experience and the rest I found afterward that I thought would be useful. If you enjoy this blog post please leave a comment below sharing your thoughts on it.

Have a great week everyone.


Five Adult Professional Relationships You Need Now!

Hello everyone and welcome back to The Selfish Column. Today we’re talking about five types of people you need in your life as an adult. These are actually a list of occupations that I compiled with the help of a really good friend. When he listed these, it had me thinking about how much it makes sense. The main reason, of course, is because I didn’t have these skills but saw the importance of them. The way my life is moving and the struggles I endured in my past made me realize how much I appreciate people in these professions. I found that these were crucial life skills we need in our adulthood, but since not all of us are fortunate to possess these skills, it doesn’t hurt to ask for help. You don’t necessarily need close friendships with people in these fields, but rather a person you can turn to when you need answers. Remember these professions are governed by their own laws so Google may not have all the answers to your questions.

How many of us have had a problem with our cars and thought it was minor, only to leave the mechanic shop feeling defeated and POOR? I have gone through some real crap with my cars and hated my life for it. After many years of these difficult lessons, I decided to not only learn more about the vehicles I purchase but to build a relationship with someone that knows my cars and my car choices.

Financial Planner
This is so personal, I can honestly say that I never took money management seriously until I moved out on my own. The concept of it has always been something people avoid talking about until shit hits the fan. But as I got older I realized the only way I can get ahead of this is to tackle my own issues and build a relationship with the one place that I do keep my money in, and that is my bank.

Real Estate Agent
I am a renter but a few of my friends are in a phase in which they are either becoming homeowners or looking for specific locations for renting. What I learned from this is that building a concrete relationship with someone in the real estate field makes your search so much easier. Myself and like many of us in this generation are busy bodies. Having someone that knows your taste and can scout places for you when you are not able to can cut down time on unnecessary meet ups.

Healthcare Physician
Let’s be honest, how many times have you looked up your symptoms on Google and thought you were gonna die if you took your next breath (ok maybe it’s just me)? Having a relationship with someone that understands your health and your future health can be so beneficial in many ways than you think. When I first moved away from home I had to go to walk-in clinics whenever I got sick and always met with different doctors even if it was a follow-up appointment. I became so frustrated with the process that it truly made me appreciate the security my parents gave me by appointing a family doctor.

Maaaaan, this is becoming so relevant to my life. Just last year I went through a situation in which it cost me $1500. It all could have been avoided if I had done the transaction legally and not just through word of mouth (aka trusting). I am not saying that you need a lawyer for everything but it is important to have a positive relationship with someone that understands the law. Having someone that knows the law can also be helpful when you are at a point in your life when you are getting married, buying a home or even starting a business.

I hope you enjoyed the list, if you have more to add to this topic I would love to hear from you guys in the comment section. This is just a list of relationships I have learned to appreciate since moving out on my own.

Thank you for stopping by The Selfish Column, hope you have a great week.



Back To School Makeup Essentials For The Girl On A Budget– Dark Skin Addition.

Hi everyone and welcome back to The Selfish Column. I know what you’re all thinking, where the heck have I been? Truthfully, there is no excuse other than I have been living and working. I want to first say thank you to everyone that has supported me thus far and continue to support me on all my social media outlets. As you can see from the title I am here to talk about my everyday makeup guide. Please know that what works for me may not work for you. To be honest I was not planning to write about this seeing how I have always talked about my lack of makeup skills (I wasn’t trying to get roasted ya’ll —- The internet is savage)…….. BUT since a number of you guys have asked me to talk about the basics for my on the go look, of course, I had to share. Ironically, my favorite items are mostly drugstore products which I find gives me that finished look. I have listed my favourite six items below.

Drugstore Makeup List:




 Essence Waterproof Brown Eyeliner in the Color 02 But First, Espresso: 
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I actually use this to color on my eyebrows before I highlight them. This works for my eyebrow hairs compared to other darker colors and blends well with my skin. Believe it or not, I also use this to highlight my cheekbones and my nose when I feel like being fancy on a budget (It’s real out here people LOL).


Essence Kajal Pencil in the Color 01 Black:  
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I use this color for my eyeliner. For my skin tone, this is a perfect black eyeliner. It is dark enough when I first apply it without the need to go over my eyelids twice. You definitely get more use from this product because you don’t have to apply it over and over again for it to show. When I say it’s black it’s BLACK ladies… (cue Tupac).

Rimmel London Scandal Eyes Mascara:

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This mascara works wonders on my none existent eyelashes. This mascara is dual sided and not only volumizes my lashes but lengthens them as well. Listen if you know the struggles of these lashes of my mine, this is a miracle mascara.
Essence Longlasting Lipstick in the Color 28:
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I just love nude lipstick, how can you not. Nude color lips are so easy to transition from day to night and goes well with any outfit. This lipstick is so long lasting that I find that I can get away with applying it once. As a woman with such “voluptuous” lips, I find that this color enhances this feature without overdoing it. This is not your typical nude color lipstick only because it has a very brown undertone. This color comes out very natural on my lips and compliments my skin. I love mixing this color with NYX Liquid Cream.
Essence Long Lasting Lipliner in the Color 02 Hot Chocolate: 
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This color gives me LIFE. This brown chocolate liner goes so well with so many of my nude “lippies” that it has become an essential. BUT, the number one reason why I love this lip liner is that I also use it as my eyebrow color. YES people, you read correct, I use this as brow liner. Three bucks can go a long way on The Selfish Column!!!
NYX Liquid/Cream Lipstick in the Color 07: 
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Not gonna lie, I fell onto this color. I received it as a gift and was somewhat hesitant to use it. It took me few weeks to start using it but when I did (HOLY) this has become glued to me. I adore this color, it has become my go to liquid lip cream. I use this literally daily!!! I just love love love this color. NYX has been killing the game.
Well, ladies and gents I hope you enjoyed my list for my go to makeup essentials for all your in between needs. Please know this is just the basic in makeup products that people use on a daily. My goal was to bring something that is affordable and still get’s the job done. Seeing that back to school shopping is coming up I thought these six items would be perfect for the students that are on a budget and living that campus life. Please comment and share your thoughts on these items I love hearing what other people are using out there. Have a great day my loves.

Pretty In Pink & All Bandaged Up

As every woman knows, there is nothing like dressing up and going out with your girls or that special someone.  With the help of Trezzi Collection and their beautiful dresses, I was able to put something together for that special occasion. This lovely pale pink dress with a hint of nude makes me feel all kinds of sexy. If you know me, you KNOW that the color pink and I don’t get along. But after laying my eyes on this dress I immediately fell in love. How could you not???????? It has that girly aspect you want in a dress without losing the sexy woman trend we all look for as adults.

Trezzi Collection is a Toronto-based boutique with an authentic brand that reaches to all types of women.  As a Canadian, I love seeing my fellow Canadian women succeed in both their personal and business lives. I could not be more excited to team up with this brand on this reason alone.

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The dress I chose highlights my figure without feeling overly dressed or underdressed.

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Shoes by @egoofficial

Trezzi Collection is showcasing their spring/summer collection and I can’t wait to get my hands on some their tops. Check them out on their Instagram page @trezzicollection and don’t forget to visit their website for more fashion inspiration and shopping… OF COURSE!!!!

Have an amazing week loves and as always thank you for stopping by.


Should Makeup Influence Your Self Confidence?


Hello and welcome back to The Selfish Column everyone. Hope all is going well this week for all of you. I want to discuss with you guys one of the most popular trends of 2016. Last year we saw a rise of the no makeup look all thanks to Alicia Keys. I have read so many articles praising this movement and also read some comments criticizing it. Based on my research, I found that women were stating how relieved they were to see a star such as Alicia Keys taking a stand. Many women felt free and understood others felt unbothered and criticized Alicia Keys (myself included) for this. The reason why I felt so unbothered is because I never took makeup and the concept of it to heart. In my 25 years of life, I never looked at makeup as a way to cover up imperfections, seeing that the era which I grew up in and my worldview of it were cultural and not an insecurity. My personal belief is that makeup should be fun just like any other things in life and confidence should come from within. I know I know we hear this all the time and for some people, this can be difficult. But trust me when I say this… there is value in being your own cheerleader and most importantly there is value in being YOU. At the end of the day, whether you wear something such as makeup to make you feel better or anti-aging cream to keep the skin youthful, we all must see a value within ourselves first. The reason why I feel so compelled to state this is because I have never looked at makeup as a major part of my life, truthfully I don’t know much about makeup. Just ask any of my friends about my makeup collection and they will tell you that it is SAD. I have been using the same technique since the ninth grade and my knowledge of my makeup believe it or not is sub par…. VERY LIMITED. Due to not focusing so much on this allowed me to feel free and find other ways to boost my confidence. I learned that my confidence comes from my ability to feel useful, to gain knowledge and be intelligent. I am such a workaholic that I find myself feeling low and down about myself if I’m not useful or working. The thought of being ignorant and not being able to contribute in discussions weighs heavier on me than whether I’m wearing makeup or not.


By now you should know where I am going with this. Having makeup will never change what’s on your mind, but it will always be a way to express yourself. I don’t see Loreal, Covergirl or Mac going out of business anytime soon. So do what makes you happy GIRL.  I am a girls girl, I love women and I think we are beyond powerful than what society portrays us to be.  We are not these simple creatures that paint our faces and pout our lips for pictures, I refuse to think we are that simple that we need a such a movement in our society.

I end this post by saying don’t sweat the small stuff. As women, we are part of a far greater purpose than to be concern about who is wearing makeup and who is not. Anyone can wear anything….. HECK we were clothes everyday right?  but it will never be what you wear or put on that leaves a lasting impression but rather how you express yourself. I would much rather see the world that is full of dedicated, hardworking, independent, thinking, knowledgeable women who wear makeup than the world that is so focused on tearing others down for putting makeup on.

If you made it this far thank you. If you are visiting for the first time thank you as well.

As mentioned on my Instagram page I will be giving away some goodies as a thank you for your support and love.


Viktor & Rolf Flowerbomb Roll on Perfume and Tom Ford Lipstick. I love the two products and thought I should share with one of you guys. Both women and men qualify.


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