Your 20’s

“If I see something I like and someone else has it, that means it’s attainable”

At the age of sixteen I remember telling myself, I can’t wait until I turn 21.  At that time 21 was age to be, I had all these dreams and goals I thought would be in the palm of my hand by the time. I remember vividly wanting my motor cycle license; kept telling myself I needed to get this by this age so that when I travel the world I’m able to use any form of transportation that particular country had. Mostly I was dreaming of the roads in Italy and all those small but historical European  countries (You know the one from all the cute Hilary Duff movies).  Along with many more, I had the dream I’ll be completed with post secondary, starting my career, doing things that all these adults were doing.  But… Something hit, I turned 21, and I haven’t completed much on my list, I mean I did the whole schooling thing, but something changed I wanted more from school, from learning, and more importantly from me. My view and the things I used to valued changed. (and not to mention partying and clubbing became part being this age).

Now at the age of 24, I learn that being in your twenties is something that cannot be understood but rather experienced.  Although I did graduate one part of post secondary and worked in my field for a bit, I still didn’t feel like I had this wonderful adult career I used to talk about. Instead I found myself and still find myself, juggling my social life, school, work, money, boyfriend, partying and lack of sleep (All in one day sometime might I add lmfaoo).  Waking up early,  having to be in school,  then work which then follows with meeting with your friends- —I realized then your twenties are about being dysfunctional, wild, living, losing, winning,  be a friend, being a family member, and networking; all while adjusting to everything around you. Twenties are unpredictable, questionable, heartbreaking and all things adventurous, even if its within your on city.  SOOOOOOOOOOOO next time you get that little thought about how messy your life is in your early twenties, give it the middle finger and go do something nice for yourself, enjoy the fuckery now, because hard word always pays off.

Meyah. W (S.C)

Welcome to The Selfish Column – A Blog That Allows You To Be Selfish Without Apologizing; Celebrate You

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Selfish (of person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.

With a definition like this, no wonder why many of us are hesitant to show self-love. Self-love in many society come with a negative connotation. It’s almost as if all that you learn about yourself when you were a child had to be thrown out the window for the sake of being humble. What I mean by this is that as children we are taught to love our flaws, are told we are beautiful/handsome, smart and can be anything we want to be in this world. ———->Fast forward to your young adult years and adult years and try telling yourself those things around people you know, without being looked at or welcomed with looks and comments such, you’re conceited, full of yourself, “cocky”, or lack humbleness. I mean if they don’t say it to your face, chances are is being said behind your back. We live in a time that the thought of believing in yourself and giving your work the credit you believe you it deserve before anyone else does is received negatively. Due to this we have created a world of maybes, what if, not “good” enough and lack of self-motivation (at least that is my view and opinion of it). I’m here to tell you that there is nothing wrong with loving yourself, cheering for your accomplishment and giving yourself praise you want before anyone else does. Because if you are not happy with who you are and what you are doing, you can never be your best around those you care for.

The goal for this blog is to ultimately teach others (including myself) how to take control of our wants and needs, whenever and wherever; because learning to take a step back from others and focusing on yourself does not mean you are shutting others out but rather opening yourself to a world full of YOUR potentials and happiness.


Special thanks to my friend David Nolet for believing in me and pushing me to start this project.