What The Desert Taught Me

 

Hi everyone and welcome back to The Selfish Column. I just wanted to start this blog post by stating my gratitude for all of the love and the support all of you have shown me throughout the years. This blog has been such a safe haven for me but keeping up with it has shown to be very difficult (Let’s just say life is a B******). I understand that this is not an excuse for those that dedicate their time to show up and read because I truly appreciate the love. Consistency is what you deserve and consistency is something I will prioritize. In my head, we’re like happy hour friends that are always ready for a good time over $5 cocktails. So, thank you again and much love from me to you.

Alright, now that we got that out of the way, let’s talk. This year was definitely the most adventurous year of my adult life. I started the year by heading to New York for Fashion Week, Cabo San Lucas for my best friend’s Bachelorette, Jamaica for my older sister’s wedding, L.A for some relaxation in the hills of Malibu, and Toronto and Windsor, Ontario for two of my best friends’ weddings. I did all of this while trying to get settled into living alone and getting my place together (but that’s a story for another time).

It has been an incredible year for me that was filled with blessings. I got to see three important women in my life marry the love of their lives; And as they go on to this new journey I want to wish them a lifetime of happiness, love, and growth.

As for yours truly, the woman I was a year ago would have not considered driving hours into the desert and bypass a chance to see the glamour of Los Angeles. Truthfully, I didn’t even believe that I would be happy in the desert. Let’s be real “shit” was hotter than hell, I may be African born and raised, but that heat was nothing like I have ever experienced. Yet the desert possessed a sense of peacefulness and quietness I did not know I needed at the time. That trip was the most magical trip and experience I had so far. I was out of my comfort zone, but I was happy and given the opportunity I would do it a thousand times over.

 

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“I’ma keep running cause a winner don’t quit on themselves”
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Let’s just hope there is dietary benefits to sand, cause I ate enough of it that day.
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“You’ll find my footprints in the sand”

 

So, my friends I wanted to share these moments with you so you can have the courage to get out of your comfort soon, even a little like I did. Seek new adventures and new memories or take a big leap and seek out that job you always wanted. Whatever that leap might be for you at this moment take charge and see how life rewards you.

 

Thank you for stopping by The Selfish Column and getting this far. Until next time selfish readers.

 

~S.C~

Four Shameless Tips You Need While Living Alone

Hello everyone and welcome back to The Selfish Column. Hope all is going great in your lives as always.  As you can see the topic for today is for all my single living peeps!!!. Recently I spoke to a few people in my life that are currently living on their own and shared some really fun and interesting ideas on how we manage this new sense of freedom… ish?!! .

So how do I get my motivation back once the laziness hit, how do I stay productive throughout the day you ask?. Well, look no further at the list provided below.

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1. Don’t feel guilty if you are not big on grocery shopping:

Three trips a week to the grocery store is better than one giant one that has items you didn’t use go bad. The reason why I stress this is because I used to feel like I needed to go to the grocery store and buy everything possible because in my head that’s what adults do. But I learned very quickly that I was wasting a shit ton of money with that kind of mentality.

2. Don’t feel rushed into getting your home together all at once:

When I first got the place to myself, I had all these expectations of my home. I kept telling myself that my space had to be a certain way at a certain time before anyone can enter. Once I took a step back and let things fall into place, I was able to enjoy the process without rushing or breaking the bank. The space I took between actually purchasing things and bringing them into my place allowed me to come across really amazing sales.

3. Figure out what budget works for you and write everything down:

Things can get lost quickly if you do not pay attention to your spending. I speak this to you as I continue to struggle to find my own balance at times. Budgeting does not mean that once it’s written down that it’s set in stone. As long as you don’t plan to stay stagnant in your current life, your budget can always grow.

4. Give yourself one day a week or even a month that is dedicated to administration:

I learned this from an amazing blogger and friend Justine Celine. This woman is so full of wisdom when it comes to this blog thing. Once I decided to take this challenge on with my emails, I started incorporating it to my everyday life. this included things such as making list for house stuff, making appointments, and returning calls from family and friends. Pretty much anything you feel fit in your life to keep the wheels going can be put on the list.

The one thing I can leave with you is to remember that you can’t put a price tag on your peace of mind. What works for you may not work for someone else.

Thank you for stopping by The Selfish Column, I can’t wait to hear all of your thoughts.

 

~S.C~

Saks OFF 5TH X The Selfish Column 

Hello and welcome back to The Selfish Column, I have some amazing news to share with you all today.  Saks OFF 5TH is opening a brand-new store at our Market Mall location.  This is the perfect gift for any fashionista that is ready for back to school shopping.

As many of you know Saks Fifth Avenue has been the “IT” spot for fashion for both men and women for years. I’m glad to say that having their OFF 5TH location open in our city can only mean more fashion and more savings for all of us. School and life can become quite expensive, but that doesn’t mean we have to compromise on our style too.

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At the opening today, I had the pleasure to scout my favorite departments; this morning was like Christmas Day for me. I was able to put a whole outfit together without having to leave the store (because you can find everything you need there). Comfort is my goal but of course as a woman I love to dress up and be fashionable.

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While in the store I was able to get some amazing photos of all the departments for your viewing and of course mine. I can’t wait to hear all of your thoughts on this new location. Let me know what you think of my outfit that I put together while at Saks OFF 5TH today.

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Feel free to tag me on Instagram shopping at Saks OFF 5TH and use the hashtag #OFF5THFinds.

Thank you for stopping by The Selfish Column and getting this far.

Until next time Selfish Readers.

~S.C~

Cabo Vacation Lookbook: Outfits Ideas

 

Hey everyone and welcome back to The Selfish Column.  I would say happy spring but if you live in Calgary you know there is no spring in sight. But luckily I was able to experience some sun during my Cabo vacation.

Last month I and a group of some amazing women went to Cabo San Lucas to celebrate my girl’s bachelorette and let me tell you, things went a bit wild- – –  But I have to say it’s a girl’s trip dream come true.

What I’m most proud of when it comes to my outfits are how affordable they were. As you all know, The selfish Column is always here to save you a buck or two and that will NEVER change. I hope you enjoyed my first ever lookbook because I enjoyed creating this and can’t wait to see how all of you respond to it.

Now let’s get to business, THE FASHION.  These looks were just a snippet of what I wore on the trip and hopefully, it inspires you on your next vacation.

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Dress From Forever21 $24.90 CAD
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As a girl that love her blacks and whites and all the natural colors this print definitely allowed me to still be comfortable.
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Top: Forever21 $24.90CAD
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Did you really go on vacation if you didn’t wear white jeans pants?. These Pants are last summer’s look from H$M Canada.
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Heels are a classic summer look from Call it Spring. I bought these about a year ago and can’t remember the price but rest assured they were on Sale.
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This jumpsuit was perfect for the beach, loose and comfy.
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Jumpin’ Jumpin’ Jumpin’   Jumpsuit: Forever21 $24.90CAD            Sandals: Forver21 $17.90CAD
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I took risks this time around, and I feel confident about my decision.  I found that I actually look good in patterns and my skin tone pops when the suns around.
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Top: Forever21 $22.90        Lemon Jeans: Forever21 $30.90CAD
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The Real Housewives of Atlanta vibes with all the shade!!!!
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Purse: Forever21 $15.00CAD (Sale)          Top: Forver21 $20.90CAD
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White Sandals: Forever21 $17.90CAD                       Sunglasses: Forever21 $10.43CAD (Sale)
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Believe it or not, I have a bag of Swim Wear pieces that I take to every vacation I hit up. I haven’t changed them or purchased a new suit in about four years. Maybe this year I should start shopping, LOL. To keep it fresh I mix and match my bottoms with different color tops.
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Bathing Suit Full Piece: HM Canada
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In the sea but never lost at the shore

 

Most of my items are from Forever 21 Canada; yes I am an adult and I still shop there, and no I am not ashamed of it. (Plus these pieces are freaking cuteeeeeeee.)

As always thank you for stopping by The Selfish Column… until next time selfish readers.

 

~S.C~

 

Galentine’s Day With La Marca Prosecco

Hey everyone and welcome back to The Selfish Column. Can you believe it is Valentine’s Day? Who doesn’t love “LOVE”!!! Better yet who doesn’t love sharing the love with everyone around them?. This year, I decided not only to celebrate Valentine’s Day but also share Galentine’s Day with my girls. What’s Galentine’s Day you ask? Well, it’s the day before V-Day; where you and your lovely girls treat each other to a day of fun, laughter, and DRINKS!! This year with the help of La Marca Prosecco I and my lovely ladies took the morning by a storm. We woke up to a lovely pancake breakfast and some good old Mimosa (what more can a girl ask for).

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The day was spend sipping on some yummy bubbles, and taking in the sugar high from the cupcakes. (Remember sugar, spice, and everything Nice- (bet you can’t complete the phrase).

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Who said girls can’t have fun while getting ready. Honestly, this morning was perfect, I haven’t laughed this hard and enjoyed Prosecco like I did. La Marca really came through for the kid. If you know me, you know Prosecco is not usually my go to, but with how tasty, light and smooth it was, it made for such a great start to my morning and afternoon. The great thing about this Prosecco ladies and gents, it can transition greatly throughout any event you have during the day.

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Did I mention this bottle is smooooth, I mean like smoother than a fresh perm!!! Hahhhhah.  Really though the bubbles are persistent which goes perfectly with the crisp finish it adds to your taste palate.

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This is the perfect bottle not only for a day like Galentine’s Day, but any other occasion coming up in your life. The year is still young and there are plenty of events to be celebrated, so why not pick up a bottle of La Marca Prosecco for the occasion.

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As always thank you for stopping by and getting this far into the post. A special thanks to the girls that came to spend this Galantine’s Day with me.  I am forever at aww with the love and dedication I receive every day from all the amazing women in my life. Today was just the tip of my lifelong celebrations with so many of you.

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~S.C~